There’s a certain freedom in being single. You do what you want, when you want, without having to consider anyone else’s feelings, schedule, or opinions. It’s a life that, for many, becomes comfortable—even empowering. So when the opportunity for a new relationship comes along, it’s not just exciting—it’s terrifying. After all many of us either got married young or started having children young and now after decades, the kids are grown the marriage has run its course and now we are FREE!!
These are the thoughts that keep so many people—especially those who have been single for a while—hesitant to take the leap into something new.
1. The Fear of Losing Control Over Your Life
When you’re single, you make all the decisions. You don’t have to check in with anyone or compromise on what movie to watch or where to eat. Getting into a relationship means letting someone else’s needs and desires influence your life, which can feel like losing control over your own world.
2. The Possibility of Heartbreak
If there’s one thing that being single protects you from, it’s pain. No late-night arguments, no misunderstandings, no worrying about whether someone will leave. When you stay single, you avoid the rollercoaster of emotions that love brings. And while love can be beautiful, it also comes with the risk of deep hurt.
3. What If You’re Not Ready?
Maybe you’ve spent so much time alone that the idea of letting someone in feels foreign. You’ve built routines, learned to enjoy your own company, and found happiness in your independence. What if you’re not ready to shift your life to make room for someone else?
4. The Fear of Losing Yourself
One of the scariest things about relationships is the potential to lose your individuality. Many people worry that in prioritizing love, they’ll forget who they are—that they’ll become too dependent, too focused on the other person, and neglect their own personal growth.
5. Change Is Uncomfortable (Even Good Change)
Humans crave comfort and familiarity. Even if a new relationship has the potential to be incredible, stepping out of the predictability of single life and into the unknown is unsettling. It forces you to be vulnerable, to open up, and to accept that things will be different.
So… Why Take the Leap Anyway?
If relationships come with so much uncertainty, why do it? Because while being single has its perks, love—real, healthy love—has the power to enhance life in ways solitude never can.
· You gain a teammate in life.
· You experience deeper emotional connection.
· You have someone to support you on the hard days and celebrate with you on the good ones.
· You learn and grow in ways you wouldn’t on your own.
Yes, giving up the comfort of singlehood for the unpredictability of love is scary. But maybe, just maybe, the risk is what makes it worth it.
So if you’re hesitating, ask yourself this: Are you avoiding love because you truly love being alone—or because you’re scared of what could happen if you let someone in?
The answer might surprise you. 💛
