Meeting and dating someone for the first time can be exciting. But it is important to prioritize your physical, emotional, and mental safety. Mahogany Mates does not run background or criminal checks on the individuals who visit our site, purchase our products or join the Mahogany Mates community. With all that in mind, it is critical that all individuals who interact with this site, attend the curated events, or participate in Mahogany Mates programs take any and all necessary safety precautions. In addition, we ask that as a member of the Mahogany Mates community, you acknowledge the guidelines that are set and respect the decisions that are made and verbalized. When someone says no, there is no grey area. No means no.

Below are ten tips to help Mahogany Mates community members stay safe during the first few dates:

    10 Safety Tips for Those Initial Dates


    1. Meet in a Public Place
      Choose a well-lit, busy location like a café, restaurant, or park. Avoid private or secluded areas.
    2. Tell Someone You Trust
      Let a friend or family member know where you’re going, who you’re meeting, and when you expect to return. Consider sharing your location via phone.
    3. Use Your Own Transportation
      Drive yourself or use a rideshare service. Avoid getting into their car or letting them pick you up until you feel safe and comfortable.
    4. Keep Your Personal Information Private
      Don’t share your home address, financial details, or sensitive family or work information too soon.
    5. Stay Sober and Aware
      Watch your drink being made and never leave it unattended. Stay alert so you can judge the situation clearly.
    6. Limit Physical Contact Early On
      Don’t feel pressured to engage in physical intimacy right away. Take your time and go at your own pace.
    7. Trust Your Gut
      If something feels off, don’t ignore it. It’s okay to end the date early or walk away from a situation that doesn’t feel right.
    8. Set Boundaries Up Front
      Clearly communicate what you’re comfortable with.  This ranges from conversation topics to physical touch. Respect and assertiveness go hand in hand.
    9. Avoid Sharing Too Much Online
      Don’t tag your location in real time or post photos while you’re out with a new date, especially before trust is built.
    10. Have a Backup Plan
      Keep cash or a charged phone on hand. Have a rideshare app ready, and know where the exits are if you’re in a restaurant or venue.